Brownie Points – part one

I am a very blessed woman. Some might even say a tad bit spoiled.:)

I have wonderful children, a job I love and a great husband. Although my husband is awesome, he has never been the romantic, or shower you with gifts kind of guy. He usually likes to show me he loves me by fixing something around the house, or watching the kids so I can go off and have fun with friends. Even when we were dating, he never took me to fancy restaurants, brought me bouquets of flowers, no boxes of chocolates or surprise jewelery hidden in appropriate foods. Somewhere along the course of our almost 18 year marriage, we even stopped giving each other token birthday presents or Christmas gifts, unless it was something we bought for the family, like a new TV. We always chose to forego giving gifts to each other, since we felt so blessed already, and give them to others instead. This used to bother me a little, I always thought if you loved someone, you gave them gifts on important holidays. Like Christmas, Anniversaries, Birthdays, Mother’s Day, etc. In fact, I, myself, subscribe to a big gift giving belief, I don’t even need to wait for a holiday to give something to someone. He has never really denied me something I have wanted (within reason, I have pined over some pretty ridiculous stuff before) but it’s not the same when you go out and get it yourself with your spouse’s blessing. But over the years, I have learned to recognize his gestures of love, taking unconventional forms like fixed washing machines, washed cars, or hanging a chandelier for me in the chicken coop.

So this year, as Mother’s Day was fast approaching, I thought we would be celebrating in our typical manor. I would get the beautiful and thoughtful handmade cards from the kids, a potted plant, and someone else would do the dishes. I have grown to love these rituals. So imagine my shock when this year, my husband took me on a trip for Mother’s Day, AND if that wasn’t enough, he bought me a gift!! (it was not a potted plant, in case you were wondering, but more on that in a subsequent post.) So, being that it has almost been 18 years since I have gotten an actual gift from my husband, (please only judge him a little bit, I did tell you after all he is an amazing husband in almost every other respect) he made up big time. Actually, I believe his thinking might have been, “If I give her this, I ought to be good for another 18 years!”

Yeah…..he won some Brownie Points………

Here’s where he took me…..

 

This is the beautiful Isle of Providenciales, in Turks and Caicos. In case you originally have no idea where this is, like I did, it is an island chain about an hour and a half flight south of Miami, sandwiched in between Cuba and Haiti.

 

 And it is truly Heaven on Earth.

 

 So, without going into all the intimate details of the trip ( and there were some intimate details, if you know what I mean:)) I will tell you more about this amazing place.

Some of you don’ t know about my nomadic background, and why I love so much living on my little farm. So here’s the quick version……

I have lived on three continents, and I had traveled to over  25 different countries by the time I was twenty one. Since this was ingrained into me at such a young age, I have since always had the NEED to travel and see the world. In fact, I would gladly eat Top Ramen for a month if it meant I could save the money to go on a trip somewhere new instead. Although I love to travel, I needed someplace to grow roots for myself and family when not exploring, hence, the love for the farm. (you can read more about it here ) The reason I am telling you this background, is because I consider myself very knowledgeable on travel destinations, so when I tell you this place is Heaven on Earth, it is not just Cabo that I am comparing it to.

This place is one of those rare gems, that someone needs to tell you about. The colors in these photos are not photoshopped, except in two photos, where I actually toned the color down.

We decided to go onto VRBO , a fabulous website if you have never heard of it, and found a beautiful and very reasonable priced villa to rent. and when I say reasonable, I mean it. This place cost less than $175  a night. This view is worth ten times that.  Again, ocean color……. not photoshopped!

This is the only intimate detail I will share…..

the gorgeous bedroom…

 

 

Notice any thing in this beach photo?? Besides the gorgeous starfish?? (yeah, I’ll admit, these were purchased at the local souvenir shop, but that didn’t stop us from finding starfish on the beach, I just didn’t want to kill any)

The sand is pristine…………

This conch shell? Well, not purchased from the local gift shop. They are all over the beaches, strewn in hoards. Notice something else unusual about this photo? Or go back to my first photo and take a look.

See any people in the photo??? Well, that’s not photoshopped either. The beaches were so unpopulated, it was almost eerie. Like we were Christopher Columbus discovering a new world.

Heaven….

My hubbie was in such a good mood while we were there, he even obliged my photo requests. Both of him to take one of me,

 

 And to wait while I set up the tripod and repeatedly clicked the shutter…..

Good thing he obliged, or we wouldn’t have gotten this adorable photo since there was no one to ask on the beach to take it!

So this year, I still got the wonderful handmade cards and potted plants from the kids, but I sent everyone else this card…..

Yeah, he earned some brownie points alright. And you haven’t even seen the gift yet…….

Better than diamonds, more rare than pearls.

I”ll leave you hanging just a little bit longer…..

 

 

lissa - May 25, 2011 - 6:02 pm

Tiffany! I have goosebumps! This is amazing! and you look so beautiful and relaxed! I hope you framed that pic of you and your hubby somewhere! Prettiest vacation photos I’ve ever seen!

Christine - May 24, 2011 - 3:51 pm

That is such a wonderful post Tiffany! What a super thank you to your husband too!!! What a fantastic, dreamy time you must have had!
Christine

Karoline - May 21, 2011 - 10:25 pm

I feel in love with Turks and Caicos when I saw an episode of International House Hunters filmed there. What a wonderful gift from your husband. Hmmm did he buy you property down there too??? Your pictures are beautiful!
-Karoline

Heather :) :) :) - May 21, 2011 - 8:40 am

Wow, Turks and Caicos is BEAUTIFUL. I love those sandy beaches and all that water :) :) What a nice gift from your hubby. I’m glad you had a wonderful time :) :) The photo of you and the one with your hubby are great :) :) Have a lovely weekend. Love and hugs from Oregon, Heather :)

p.s. The photo with the two wooden chairs was one of my favorites. Those kinds of photos always say “beautiful beach with ocean” to me :) :)

Kathy - May 21, 2011 - 12:06 am

You so deserved this trip! The photos turned out beautiful. I just want to sit in one of those chairs and stare at the Ocean all day long. Read a book, maybe have a margarita ; ) The water is beautiful, the shells are beautiful, and you are beautiful!!!! Hugs

The Boys - May 20, 2011 - 7:42 pm

Oh my goodness. I never thought I could LOVE you and your family more. But this is it. Don’t tell me more. ;o)

J-

Suzanne Duda - May 20, 2011 - 2:43 pm

Hey Tiff…you two look so happy and relaxed and beautiful! So glad you got some time away together! I may recommend this to E for her honeymoon! xo suz

phyllis - May 20, 2011 - 1:51 pm

How awesome.
I’m glad you recommended this place…I’ve had
a trip on my mind and isolation. Pics are beautiful!!!

Rochelle - May 20, 2011 - 10:14 am

Oh girl! You are spoiled! What a wonderful surprise gift for you! It does look heavenly and to have it all to yourselves must have been a treat. I am jealous that you got a head start on your summer tan…i gotta get mine started soon!
Welcome back to sunshine too!
xo Rochelle

Tracey Gianakas - May 20, 2011 - 6:40 am

A vacation. ahhhhh. Perfect gift! You both look so happy and relaxed!
My husband is the opposite. I get gifts. Mostly jewelry. I hate it! Before kids, I didn’t mind. But now, I stay at home. I have asked him not to get me jewelry anymore. Am I crazy? Where am I going to wear it? Stop and Shop? Costco? We don’t go anywhere! We have little kids and date night is rare because all he does is work. Honestly, a week away on a farm sounds like heaven to me! I’m in NY. (I’m the one who made the fancy apron for Where Women Create) You actually met my husband because he went to the market to take pictures for me. Doing that meant more to me then a expensive bracelet! It’s the simple things they do…I keep telling him that. I think he’s finally getting it. For Mother’s Day I got flowers, he made cards with the kids, and we went to a park with family. No fancy gifts. The fancy gifts to me are now just the more he has to work to pay for it. No thanks. I can make my own jewelry…out of old buttons or something. Fancy doesn’t have to be expensive :)

Cassandra - May 20, 2011 - 5:38 am

Tiffany I LOVED THIS POST! It’s too funny, because you pretty much described my husband lol! No flowers, sometimes no card for our anniversary, etc. He did try to buy me something this year for my Birthday . . . an external cd drive????!! And nope I did not ask for one. lol BUT I know him, and he is the most giving person, and he too supports my crazy ideas, encourages me to pursue my dreams. Most of them at least :) And well, how many other men would help you alter a frilly dress te hehe. Gotta love em.

AND bring on the ramen noodles cause I can relate! We moved around when I was young, but no where special or long distance. But boy I love to travel, and have a strong passion to see things. I think it enriches your life and gives you things to look forward too. Hubby is happy in his own yard, but when I get him out he loves it.

Great post xox

Natasha Burns - May 20, 2011 - 5:34 am

Oh Walker – the first thing I thought of was, he’s earning enough gifts for the next 18 years! You guys are awesome, and Turks & Caicos (lol I thought you were in Turkey!) looks INCREDIBLE! I believe you about the water not being photoshopped, that is the colour it was in the Cook Islands – it’s amazing to see isn’t it! xoxo

debi - May 19, 2011 - 9:53 pm

Your husband sounds just like mine, and we’re still going strong after 39 years. Gifts aren’t everything!

And, only having seen this much so far, I’d say your hubby is good for the next 18! lol

Marian Ellison - May 19, 2011 - 8:54 pm

What a beautiful post. You both look so happy in the photo. This gift was worth waiting for…..a lovely exotic getaway with the one you love….fantastic.

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